Goals are imperative for most happy people. But if you're not reaching your goals it is important to make sure their not all extrinsic goals, the ones that only satisfy your ego. Some examples of extrinsic goals are being liked/being popular, attractiveness, and financial success. These are okay, just don't stop there.
Extrinsic goals typically just aren’t strong enough to motivate a person through to the very end. This isn't the category of goals that to orient our lives around. People that only set extrinsic goals are less happy and less fulfilled than those who set intrinsic goals. Extrinsic goals are best when they are a bi-product or coherent partner of our deeper and more meaningful intrinsic goals.
One contributing factor to being genuinely happy is to create intrinsic goals. This type of goal relates to self awareness, self development and personal growth. Some examples include deepening our relationship with our lover and our family, donating to a cause, reading more, or shaking a destructive habit. These are strong intrinsic goals, goals that focus on personal and spiritual growth.
We always have the power to change the thoughts that saturate our minds and penetrate us.
To seed a new thought and to germinate it is 100% within all of our abilities. A new thought is divine. A new thought to upgrade Self in some way can clear the emotional and mental clutter that might be surrounding and stifling us. It allows a new path to unfold. The seed of a new thought, when attended to, will bloom. BUT, a thought is only one of three ingredients necessary. A thought that is well attended to can erase internal conflict and obstacles that may have previously stood in the way. To nourish it so that it takes root we also need emotion and will.
Your emotions (energy-in-motion) have to be congruent with your thoughts. If you think that you want something but fear failing or even fear attaining it, there is discord, disharmony and success will be very unlikely. If you feel excitement for the challenge of actualizing your thoughts and dreams, you should start to notice yourself figuring out your "next action steps".
Now you must summon your will. Will is Action, so take a physical step in the physical world in order to initiate. Even taking a series of tiny actions will create positive momentum and lead to something tangible. When this action is combined with the energy of emotion and the clarity of mind, you become destined to create a real life result. Now you just need to keep up the motivation. We will talk about sustaining your motivation in the next blog post, meanwhile, download our "Next Action Worksheet" below!